I’m writing to you today because I’m having a mental breakdown. I’m nearing my 30’s, and I’m in major debt because of student loans. I’m working a full-time job that barely pays, and I just don’t know what to do. The job is at a company that I love. It’s just the job itself that I hate. But it doesn’t seem like there’s any room to move up without knowing someone or having more experience in that particular position. I don’t know what to do. Every time I think about quitting, I think about not being able to pay my bills, not being able to find another job, etc. What should I do? I’d love to hear your opinion.
First off, you’re not alone! There are so many people out there that are going through exactly what you’re going through. It’s okay to be scared and to not understand why you’re going through this. It’s part of life.
One thing that I’ve always felt was completely true was that life is short, and you shouldn’t waste away any of your days unhappy. Now, I know it’s much easier said than done, and I know that a lot of our situations are different, but if you really sit for a second and reorganize your life a little bit, it might just become that easy.
The “smart” thing to do would be to look for another job and get hired by another company before you actually commit to quit. But I understand that sometimes our emotions are a bit pushy, and they want out immediately. The number one thing is to make sure that if you’re without a job that you’re able to live semi-comfortably.
If you can’t move back in with mom and dad, and you can’t bare to crash on friends’ couches, then, are you at least able to pay for an apartment (a bachelor, a studio, living with a roommate)?
Credit cards and student loans can usually be put on hold if one is going through a financial hardship. Always use the word HARDSHIP! It does wonders when talking to debt collectors.
There are always people willing to help. Whether it’s the people in your life or the government (low income housing, food stamps, etc.), there are so many resources that you can use to stay on your feet while looking for work.
Only you know what your situation is truly like, and if quitting your job will actually keep you sane, then, quitting your job is what you must do. Ask for the help you need, and you’d be surprised at how willing people are to provide assistance.
Have you talked with your manager? Have you told he/she that you’re ready for a new challenge within the company? Some companies pay for training or a new degree. Because you’re within a company that you actually like, I would advise you to seek as much information as possible and talk with your boss. Remember that people can’t read your mind. Maybe they don’t even know that you want to take on a new role. Communication is everything!
Find out what you really want to do with your career and go for it. Talk to the people who are doing exactly what you want to be doing and find out how they got there. Yes, you have to pay your dues, but at least you will know at the end of your dues, you’ll be in the position that you want. Does that make sense?
I’ll leave you with this quote. It always speaks to me in times of need.
“It might take a Year. It might take a Day. But what’s meant to be will always find its Way.”
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